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NY Times on Olympic medal winner and his search for his Birth Parents

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This is of some interest to me, since we have two adopted sons. Dawson was abandoned as an infant in Korea and eventually adopted by ski instructors in the U. S. It’s a good article.For Dawson, a Bronze and a Chance to Find Birth Parents – New York Times this article will only be available for free online for the next week (NY Times rules, not mine.) Any one interested in the article after that can email me and I will email a copy.

I should point out that not all adopted children are interested in finding their birth parents. In our house, Joe has some interest, and Tim has never expressed any interest. Of ocurse he’s only nine. Joe was interested from an early age. I should point out that while he’s expressed some interest, it’s not something that’s too big a deal for him. He rarely brings it up. Very rarely.

Tim just got out of the bathtub, and while I helped him dry his hair he asked me, "Now that you don’t have any hair, do you still wash your hair?" I said "well, I wash my head."

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    Thea McGinnis

    my anecdotal experience tells me that girls are more fascinated with finding their birth parents than boys. one friend with a son indicated that he has never expressed an interest in finding his birth family. his adoptive parents are beloved by him. another friend, now passed away, had a daughter and a son. the daughter, from early teens, was insistent with finding her birth mother, causing my friend much pain. it seemed to her to be used as punishment and as a way of her daughter rejecting her. but as she got older and married, the issue seemed to fade in priority. to my knowledge, as an adult (and now married) she has never actively pursued finding her birth mother. My friend’s son always discussed the fact he was adopted but was very close to his adoptive parents. He told me when he was 18 he would search for his birth parents, but since my friend died around that time, he never pursued it and hasn’t to this day. He is still close to his dad.

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